Thursday, 22 October 2015
BLESS ME!
Nigerian fast rising and upcoming artist Feola Olola dropped chart topping hit single titled "Bless Me" on his birthday(Oct 16).
This lovable young man christened Famuyibo Feola Oluwanifemi
hails from Ekiti state , he resides in the ancient city of Ibadan and is currently studying to get a degree in Computer science at the Federal University of Technology,Akure
Feola Olola has been involved with music pretty much all his life,one of the most remarkable addition to his musical career is his affiliation with the young worshippers crew.
He believes in quality melody as well as sound lyrics that can cause national transformation while inducing relaxation in the human mind . He spends endless hours writing and proof reading his lyrics in order to come up with an exquisite work of art , hence it didn't take us by surprise when he decided to drop his official first single.
The song "Bless me" is the request of every human that seeks to make a head way in life by honest means. He is of the opinion that life is what we make of it and in line with this he is appealing to God almighty to make life worth living as he recognizes his sovereignty.
This amazing song has finally hit the airwaves in grand style,and one must admit the beauty and uniqueness of this inspiring song in which he combines a strong command for both the Yoruba and English languages with sheer musical genius to bring us a thriller.
Bless me is a prayer to God almighty and and assurance that there is hope.
Looking forward to a productive day ? You should be jamming to Feola Olola's Bless me. It's the song of the moment. Download and enjoy.
http://goo.gl/5GkOVq
THE CRUSH ALERT
There are two types of alerts that brightens a girl’s day or week. These are the ”Bank alert” and the “crush alert”. While the bank alert fattens your pocket or wallet,the latter stretches your heart beyond limit and if care is not taken,a shattered heart might just be the next happening situation.
So this is how it goes,you run into a hot hunk on a cold morning while jogging,your eyes meet and you suddenly feel like he can see into the deepest part of your soul. There is a connection,he might not feel it but you do. Better still,he does but decides not to act on it and then smiles at you,flashing a white set of well arranged teeth your way,throwing you a wink at the same time and then jogs on. Your heart beat loses its rythym and turns into a parade sorta beat,you blush and scream inwardly,”OMFG,dude is haaaawwwwt!”. Your brain screams ATTRACTION BUT your mind screams CRUSH. However I call this DEATH and this kind of guy,I call DEVIL. I mean why would you look so sweaty in cute joggers and tight hugging tees,get my heart "over pumping" blood vigorously only to jog on. EXCUSE ME???
I find the social media crush amusing you know. I mean why crush on a dude on twitter,instagram or whatever,like his pictures and even save and use on bbm and whatsapp as your NCA only to have him not follow you at all or unfollow you. Dude doesn’t even know you exist madam,wake up,that alert is clearly not for you.
A type of crush I find rather disheartening is one you have on a guy with a girlfriend. Now usually in this case,the girl or bae is usually so beautiful. Like pretty,cute and amazing. Be sure to check out the body,KILLING! These duo can be referred to as the “star couple”,so YOU crushing on the dude is just unacceptable to ‘”US” and my dear you would just be torturing yourself cos even IF he looks your way,he is just probably checking out the level you are on as compared to his girl. Move on!
Now there is this kinda crush that screams funny and weird. It is one you develop towards a guy whom you claim to totally dislike.lol. Many girls do this,scream at a guy,mock him when with friends but secretly crush and kiss his picture before going to bed at night. This is why it is called a WEIRD CRUSH. Everytime you see him you brain screams INCOMING ALERT!!! But you push him away in public which makes me wonder when you are gonna get the courage to give your frog a kiss.
Now crushing on your friend’s brother/brother’s friends is something else entirely. You go on a visit to your friend’s place and hear the deep timbre to her brother’s voice only for him to appear and leave you stuttering and drooling. Your brain screams alert! WIPE THAT SPITTLE OFF YOUR MOUTH OLD GURL,DUDE’S GOT A BAE*winks*
Crushing on your lecturer is another common thing but an old lecturer,driver,gardner or your old man’s friend making alert ring/sound in your brain is so not good for your health,so cut it out.
Finally,you meet a guy you are attracted to,you get lucky and become friends,stuffs get going,smooth and suave,the alert is received,CRUSH ALERT!!! It reads,a decision is left to be made. Tell him and get him mad OR shut up and stay as friends…....
Before you start thanking me for reading your mind and providing a lasting solution to this problem at hand which is the major problem girls face nowadays,I’m gonna tell you this- I HAVE GOT NO ANSWER OR SOLUTION TO YOUR DILENMA,ALL I CAN SAY IS DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT.
By the way old guy,let me let you in on a little secret,once your girl starts using NCA on her pm or status,BE SCARED cos it only means one thing-NEW CRUSH ALERT!!!*wicked grin*
My dear girls,if you like Lucifer Cynister,you needn’t go through much agony,TELL HIM. Ich liebe dich*winks* stay loved….muah!
@Alexis_Okin
So this is how it goes,you run into a hot hunk on a cold morning while jogging,your eyes meet and you suddenly feel like he can see into the deepest part of your soul. There is a connection,he might not feel it but you do. Better still,he does but decides not to act on it and then smiles at you,flashing a white set of well arranged teeth your way,throwing you a wink at the same time and then jogs on. Your heart beat loses its rythym and turns into a parade sorta beat,you blush and scream inwardly,”OMFG,dude is haaaawwwwt!”. Your brain screams ATTRACTION BUT your mind screams CRUSH. However I call this DEATH and this kind of guy,I call DEVIL. I mean why would you look so sweaty in cute joggers and tight hugging tees,get my heart "over pumping" blood vigorously only to jog on. EXCUSE ME???
I find the social media crush amusing you know. I mean why crush on a dude on twitter,instagram or whatever,like his pictures and even save and use on bbm and whatsapp as your NCA only to have him not follow you at all or unfollow you. Dude doesn’t even know you exist madam,wake up,that alert is clearly not for you.
A type of crush I find rather disheartening is one you have on a guy with a girlfriend. Now usually in this case,the girl or bae is usually so beautiful. Like pretty,cute and amazing. Be sure to check out the body,KILLING! These duo can be referred to as the “star couple”,so YOU crushing on the dude is just unacceptable to ‘”US” and my dear you would just be torturing yourself cos even IF he looks your way,he is just probably checking out the level you are on as compared to his girl. Move on!
Now there is this kinda crush that screams funny and weird. It is one you develop towards a guy whom you claim to totally dislike.lol. Many girls do this,scream at a guy,mock him when with friends but secretly crush and kiss his picture before going to bed at night. This is why it is called a WEIRD CRUSH. Everytime you see him you brain screams INCOMING ALERT!!! But you push him away in public which makes me wonder when you are gonna get the courage to give your frog a kiss.
Now crushing on your friend’s brother/brother’s friends is something else entirely. You go on a visit to your friend’s place and hear the deep timbre to her brother’s voice only for him to appear and leave you stuttering and drooling. Your brain screams alert! WIPE THAT SPITTLE OFF YOUR MOUTH OLD GURL,DUDE’S GOT A BAE*winks*
Crushing on your lecturer is another common thing but an old lecturer,driver,gardner or your old man’s friend making alert ring/sound in your brain is so not good for your health,so cut it out.
Finally,you meet a guy you are attracted to,you get lucky and become friends,stuffs get going,smooth and suave,the alert is received,CRUSH ALERT!!! It reads,a decision is left to be made. Tell him and get him mad OR shut up and stay as friends…....
Before you start thanking me for reading your mind and providing a lasting solution to this problem at hand which is the major problem girls face nowadays,I’m gonna tell you this- I HAVE GOT NO ANSWER OR SOLUTION TO YOUR DILENMA,ALL I CAN SAY IS DO WHAT YOU FEEL IS RIGHT.
By the way old guy,let me let you in on a little secret,once your girl starts using NCA on her pm or status,BE SCARED cos it only means one thing-NEW CRUSH ALERT!!!*wicked grin*
My dear girls,if you like Lucifer Cynister,you needn’t go through much agony,TELL HIM. Ich liebe dich*winks* stay loved….muah!
@Alexis_Okin
WEIRD FEELINGS: PHOBIA
Everyone feels anxious from time to time. This can be in different
situations such as writing as exam, travelling, entering a lane for the first
time, etc and then you begin to feel uneasy, you start sweating on your palms,
your heart starts to beat fast or you start shaking. However, when your anxiety
is so serious, that can lead to having phobia.
Phobia is an anxiety order characterized by extreme and irrational fear
of simple things or social situations. A lot of people, in fact almost everyone
has something he or she is afraid of. Many of us have fears about particular
objects or situations and this is perfectly normal. A fear becomes a phobia if
it lasts for more than six months, and has a significant impact on how you live
your day-to-day life.
This can be caused by fear and anxiety when
faced with situations that you are afraid of. If this is severe, the objects
you think of can cause phobia. Such physical symptoms are chest pain, dizziness
unsteadiness, hot or cold flushes, nausea, trembling and shaking. Other
symptoms include feeling out of touch, a fear of losing control or dying. It
these symbols are very intense, they could trigger a panic attack. Experiencing
this type of acute fear is extremely unpleasant and can be very frightening.
Phobias can be categorized into specific
phobia and complex phobias. The specifics are often developed in the childhood
or adolescence stage and for many people they will lesson as they get older.
However, you may still experience fear and anxiety even when the object or
situation is not present. Examples are heights, spiders, water, darkness,
blood, vomits, injections, etc
The complex phobias are the phobias that tend to have more disabling
impact on your life than specific phobias. They tend to develop when you are an
adult. Social and agrophobia (fear of open space) are the two most common
complex phobias. It may be connected one specific situation such as speaking,
or it may be that you are afraid of talking to or being around other people.
People ask if there are cures to phobia or
if there is any treatment for phobias, but the most prevalent treatment is to
focus on helping people or yourself to deal with it. Some methods are:
medications, exposure therapy and behaviour therapy. If you think it is getting
out of hand, then visit the hospital. You can check out your phobia with the
meanings.
Fribriophobia
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Fear of fever
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Elurophobia
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Fear of cats
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Ablutophobia
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Fear or washing or bathing
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Altophobia
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Fear of heights
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Brontophobia
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Fear of thunder and lighting
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Bibliophobia
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Fear of books
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Achluophobia
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Fear of darkness
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Bromidrosiphobia
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Fear of body smell
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Cacophobia
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Fear of ugliness
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Chaetophobia
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Fear of hair
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Clinophobia
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Fear of going to bed
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Didaskaleinophobia
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Fear of going to school
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Debdrophobia
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Fear of trees
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Dystychiphobia
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Fear of accidents
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Ephibiphobia
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Fear of teenagers
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Ergophobia
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Fear of work
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Frigophobia
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Fear of cold
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Gerascophobia
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Fear of growing old
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Gynophobia
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Fear of women
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Homilophobia
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Fear of sermons
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Hypegiaphobia
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Fear of responsibility
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Homophobia
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Fear of sameness
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Ideophobia
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Fear of ideas
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Insectophobia
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Fear of insect
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Kleptophobia
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Fear of stealing
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Alektorophobia
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Fear of chickens
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Athazagoraphobia
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Fear of being forgotten
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Botanophobia
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Fear of plants
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Which one is yours?
TUNMIKE'S PAIN - LOST HOPE
She suddenly felt like like she was drowning,she tried opening her eyes but couldn’t . She felt the sharp pain again, she tried moving her legs but couldn’t,waving her arms was almost impossible. Her bones ached and it seemed like ice cubes had hidden in her joints.
“I cant afford to die now lord,I still have lot to do, save me.”
Someone must have seen her arms at that moment because strong hands suddenly lifted her out of the pool. She blanked out.
She opened her eyes slowly and closed it almost immediately.
“let down the curtains”,she heard a voice say gently.
Few seconds later,she opened her eyes and met her mother’s tears swollen eyes. Pain twisted her guts as she thought of her mother’s pain and trials .Her mother immediately gave into tears and ran out of the room. Her 3year old sister stood up from the corner where she was building bricks,walked towards her and gazed lovingly at her,she took her hands in hers and sang “Amazing grace” in the the finest voice her 3 year old voice box could muster.
“Ma’am taught us in church yesterday. She said it is a song that tells us about God’s love and that it saves. You won’t cos die Aunty Tunmike,Jesus told me in my dream that he loves you.”
She smiled and squeezed her sister’s little hands gently,she then pulled her closer for a kiss. ‘’call me mama Anita.’’
Her sister returned her smile and gave her another kiss on the mouth. Tunmike watched as her sister skipped away as she called for her mum to come join them.
She felt the pain again like a surge of electricity. She reached for the glass of water on the table beside her. Just then her mother walked into her room looking refreshed. She had obviously just had her bath and had regained her color. Her mother sat beside her and gave her a peck,”I love you Tunmike,you have stayed this long and I won’t lose you now. You will be fine,we are going to get a donor very soon.” She smiled at her mother and raised herself up for a tight hug.
She so much wished she could believe her mother,she so much wished she could be share Anita’s optimism but they still hadn’t found someone with matching stem cells. She had lived for 21 years,every birthday was a rather noisy events. Family and friends always came around during such times to celebrate her survival and to thank God for her life even though some came to see for themselves and certify that she could make it through the next year. She slumped on her 21st birthday and that was when the doctor suggested a lasting solution,”Find someone with matching stem cells who is willing to donate some and we can work with that. This is the ultimate solution,your daughter would never experience the pains of a sickle cell patient again.” Her mother and sister had undergone series of test but there was no match. The search had begun but all efforts to find a willing donor had proven abortive. Her mother never gave up though but she could tell her faith was weakening.
“Mama,for how long was I out?”
Her mother loosened her hold and lowered her back unto the bed.”Three days. You came around this morning.”
She had gone out with her friends to the pool that Friday. It was her best friend’s birthday and she went into the pool against all protests from her friends. “Don’t tell me what to do”,she had said to them. They later joined her though,they had no choice. She smiled when she remembered her best friend’s last words,”I love you bestie but I hate your stubbornness,get in but you ain’t spending more than twenty minutes in there and your time starts now!”
“By the way,Amira called to check on you and to say she would be back this evening. She has been here since Friday also. She left with your doctor friend this morning to sign in at work. Tolu also called,he would be flying in today,he should be here by midnight.”
She smiled at the mention of her lover’s name. Tolu was the best gift God had given to her after her mother and sister ofcourse. After Tolu, came her best friend,Amira. They were the only true lovers apart from her mother and sister and she loved them more than life itself. She had willingly given herself to Tolu days after she slumped on her 21st birthday. That was after she had realized the impossibility of finding a matching donor. She had kept it a secret from her friend and her lover . It wasn’t even 100 percent sure and it was only 14 percent safe so why stress them out mentally and risk her own life in the process. “Make me your woman my love”,she had said to him that night. She smiled at the memories of what went down that night.
Her phone suddenly rang,her mother handed it over to her with a wink and left the room. “I’m only few steps away from you baby girl,just holla and I will be back”. She laughed at her mother’s newly adopted lingo. “this woman no wan grow old again sha”,she thought laughing out loud.
“Oko mi,Olowo ori mi,how far now” She said into the phone.
“Tunmike,you took ill again my love,I was scared,I couldn’t even talk to you. You were out for 3days. I’m on my way to your place,I need to be with you.”
“Guy,what about your conference in Berlin now?”
“A conference when my heart is on a sick bed? I left Germany yesternight ,I’m on my way to your place now.”
Tears stung her eyes as she wondered why God had given her such a great man.
“Why didn’t I meet you when I was 16? I could have been able to spend more time with you,more years. I met you two years ago but I so wish we had met 5 years ago.”
He became quiet for some seconds and she wondered what the sound he made was.
“Shuuuush you,we are going to get married soon and we are going to spend lots of years together with our children.” His voice changed and took an hoarse turn.
She smiled at his optimism. Marriage?she wished and children? he had said,the children she wished to have but would never be able to for even if she survived,she just couldn’t imagine bringing her kids to the world to face the same fate.
“are you crying Tolu?your voice sounds weird of a sudden.”
He took some time to reply,”no love,at all.”
“I love you baby”she said into the phone.
“always baby,always”he said as he opened the door to her room,phone still glued to his ear.
She gasped and smiled as she took him in. Her tall handsome lover, sleek and suave,loving and caring.
“You prankster!” she said as she threw a small pillow at him.
“And is that how to greet the noble knight who flew many hours across the globe to see his dame?”
“Ojebi” she said and pulled her tongue out.
Tolu took in her lean figure and shivered. He couldn’t lose her,not now,never. He moved closer to her bedside and kissed her as though his life depended on it. He looked into her eyes and told her about his trip and the fun places he was planning to take her to for vacation. “you need to take some time off work my love.” like he had always said. She thought she needed it also. She did agree that she had always overdone it but she loved her job and would not be treated like an invalid or a disable.
“Okay,so when are we going?”she asked,surprising him.
He was surprised,he had always begged her to slow down and now,she finally agreed. Words couldn’t describe how happy he was..,”next month,Paris and Venice.”
Paris and Venice,she had always wanted her honeymoon in those beautiful cities. She wondered if she should ask him about how he got to know she would love to go there. “Chill,did i?”
He suddenly went down on his knees and produced a ring with a large diamond on it. "Marry me" he said. The streak of bright light penetrated her eyes and she immediately closed it. When her eyes finally gotaround accommodating the jewel,she stared wildly and screamed,”How much did you buy that?return it and get something smaller”
He laughed so hard and she finally joined in.
“Marry me silly girl before I change my mind,you know I’m proud” he said teasingly.
Tears finally escaped and flowed down her face.
“I love you so much Tolu mi”
“you’ve got no choice baby cos now you are stuck to me forever.”and he sealed their silent vow with a kiss. In between their kiss,he raised his head and said,”mind you,I already asked mum and she joyfully gave her blessings .You had think she was the one I proposed to.”
She laughed and whispered a thank you to God.
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It was her wedding morning. Tolu wanted them to wed quickly so she could take a break and so the wedding was fixed for 3weeks after he proposed. She had just dropped his call when Amira waltzed into the room.
“You are the most beautiful angel heaven lost to man and I’m happy to famz you. I would have continued dishing out compliments but my dear your prince awaits. That fish called to profess his love in church oh,he just didn’t tell you. He is such a dear. So get off your butt and go kiss your prince in church.”
She grabbed her friend’s arm ,”I love him Amira”
“I know madam,you wouldn’t consider walking down that aisle in few minutes if you didn’t.” Amira said as she turned to get her clutch.
“I’m scared Amira”
Amira stylishly dabbed at the drop pf tears that had escaped from her eyes and then turned back to her friend,giving the brightest smile she could muster,”you will be fine Tunmike.”
She took her hand and they walked out of the room.
FEW MINUTES LATER…….
And seeing that there is no objection to the union of these two,I hereby join you in the name of the Father,the son and the holyghost. You may now kiss your bride.
Tolu swept his bride into his arms and gave a mind blowing kiss,a sharp,familiar pain surged through her. Her vision became blurry,she couldn’t make out her lover’s face,she tried to take deep breaths but found that so impossible. The pain she felt couldn’t be compared to the ones she had felt in the past.
“HELP US!!!” Tolu screamed.
The congregation gathered around them ,the last voice she heard above the noice was that of her husband telling her everything would be alright.
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She opened her eyes to the white walls of the hospital. Tolu,Amira and her mother were speaking in low tones. Her sister rushed to her side and gave her the flowers she had been holding as the little bride during the wedding. “Hello sis,you are not going to die,are you?” she asked innocently.
She tried to talk only to find out that she was receiving oxygen. She lifed the breather a little and said “of course not”,after which she smiled and returned the breather to its position. She then pointed at her husband and told her sister to call him. Anita moved away from her bed side and tapped her new uncle.
“She is calling you unc Tolu.”
He looked her way and gave a weak smile. “she is awake,my love is back”,he said to her mother and best friend.
They all moved towards her and offered a prayer of thanksgiving. She removed her breather for some minutes and addressed her family.
“I love you mama,you are the best woman in the world. Amira,words cant tell how wonderful and great you have been. Anita,come here baby.” Her sister moved closer and she gave her tight hug and kiss,the show of affection evoked tears. “So excuse me y’all,I wanna talk to the boo before I send you all home for the night. “
They stood up to leave and she called after them to bring her change of clothes in the morning.. She stared at her husband with tears in her eyes. He hugged her and moved back to avoid making her uncomfortable on the bed. She removed her breather and pulled him closer. She kissed him for long before she started gasping for breath which made her return her breather to its position. She took deep breaths and slided it off her nose again to talk.
“I love you ife mi,don’t ever forget that. I want an epitaph saying,”I wish I didn’t have to leave so soon but I will forever be in your hearts.”
“NO! NEVER!!!” her husband screamed. “you ain't leaving me,our unborn kids need you,I do too. Ife mi you have to stay with me. Please don’t leave.”he cried.
His tears hurt her,”but I don’t want to leave,I want to stay but I’m in pain,It’s unbearable,I’m so weak,I hurt so much.”
Her confession made him cry so much,he slid her breather back across her nose and kissed her palm.
“You have to go now,come check me tomorrow.”she said.
He refused till she slept off. He woke up in the midnight to find no signal or wave on the patient bedside monitor.
“DOCTOR!NURSE!!! SAVE HER!! I NEED HER,SAVE MY WIFE PLEASE!!!”
The doctor and nurse looked at him in pity. “I’m sorry sir but she is gone,we lost her.”
His tears shook the foundations of the earth that day,the earth had sent back heaven’s angel.
THE END
“I cant afford to die now lord,I still have lot to do, save me.”
Someone must have seen her arms at that moment because strong hands suddenly lifted her out of the pool. She blanked out.
She opened her eyes slowly and closed it almost immediately.
“let down the curtains”,she heard a voice say gently.
Few seconds later,she opened her eyes and met her mother’s tears swollen eyes. Pain twisted her guts as she thought of her mother’s pain and trials .Her mother immediately gave into tears and ran out of the room. Her 3year old sister stood up from the corner where she was building bricks,walked towards her and gazed lovingly at her,she took her hands in hers and sang “Amazing grace” in the the finest voice her 3 year old voice box could muster.
“Ma’am taught us in church yesterday. She said it is a song that tells us about God’s love and that it saves. You won’t cos die Aunty Tunmike,Jesus told me in my dream that he loves you.”
She smiled and squeezed her sister’s little hands gently,she then pulled her closer for a kiss. ‘’call me mama Anita.’’
Her sister returned her smile and gave her another kiss on the mouth. Tunmike watched as her sister skipped away as she called for her mum to come join them.
She felt the pain again like a surge of electricity. She reached for the glass of water on the table beside her. Just then her mother walked into her room looking refreshed. She had obviously just had her bath and had regained her color. Her mother sat beside her and gave her a peck,”I love you Tunmike,you have stayed this long and I won’t lose you now. You will be fine,we are going to get a donor very soon.” She smiled at her mother and raised herself up for a tight hug.
She so much wished she could believe her mother,she so much wished she could be share Anita’s optimism but they still hadn’t found someone with matching stem cells. She had lived for 21 years,every birthday was a rather noisy events. Family and friends always came around during such times to celebrate her survival and to thank God for her life even though some came to see for themselves and certify that she could make it through the next year. She slumped on her 21st birthday and that was when the doctor suggested a lasting solution,”Find someone with matching stem cells who is willing to donate some and we can work with that. This is the ultimate solution,your daughter would never experience the pains of a sickle cell patient again.” Her mother and sister had undergone series of test but there was no match. The search had begun but all efforts to find a willing donor had proven abortive. Her mother never gave up though but she could tell her faith was weakening.
“Mama,for how long was I out?”
Her mother loosened her hold and lowered her back unto the bed.”Three days. You came around this morning.”
She had gone out with her friends to the pool that Friday. It was her best friend’s birthday and she went into the pool against all protests from her friends. “Don’t tell me what to do”,she had said to them. They later joined her though,they had no choice. She smiled when she remembered her best friend’s last words,”I love you bestie but I hate your stubbornness,get in but you ain’t spending more than twenty minutes in there and your time starts now!”
“By the way,Amira called to check on you and to say she would be back this evening. She has been here since Friday also. She left with your doctor friend this morning to sign in at work. Tolu also called,he would be flying in today,he should be here by midnight.”
She smiled at the mention of her lover’s name. Tolu was the best gift God had given to her after her mother and sister ofcourse. After Tolu, came her best friend,Amira. They were the only true lovers apart from her mother and sister and she loved them more than life itself. She had willingly given herself to Tolu days after she slumped on her 21st birthday. That was after she had realized the impossibility of finding a matching donor. She had kept it a secret from her friend and her lover . It wasn’t even 100 percent sure and it was only 14 percent safe so why stress them out mentally and risk her own life in the process. “Make me your woman my love”,she had said to him that night. She smiled at the memories of what went down that night.
Her phone suddenly rang,her mother handed it over to her with a wink and left the room. “I’m only few steps away from you baby girl,just holla and I will be back”. She laughed at her mother’s newly adopted lingo. “this woman no wan grow old again sha”,she thought laughing out loud.
“Oko mi,Olowo ori mi,how far now” She said into the phone.
“Tunmike,you took ill again my love,I was scared,I couldn’t even talk to you. You were out for 3days. I’m on my way to your place,I need to be with you.”
“Guy,what about your conference in Berlin now?”
“A conference when my heart is on a sick bed? I left Germany yesternight ,I’m on my way to your place now.”
Tears stung her eyes as she wondered why God had given her such a great man.
“Why didn’t I meet you when I was 16? I could have been able to spend more time with you,more years. I met you two years ago but I so wish we had met 5 years ago.”
He became quiet for some seconds and she wondered what the sound he made was.
“Shuuuush you,we are going to get married soon and we are going to spend lots of years together with our children.” His voice changed and took an hoarse turn.
She smiled at his optimism. Marriage?she wished and children? he had said,the children she wished to have but would never be able to for even if she survived,she just couldn’t imagine bringing her kids to the world to face the same fate.
“are you crying Tolu?your voice sounds weird of a sudden.”
He took some time to reply,”no love,at all.”
“I love you baby”she said into the phone.
“always baby,always”he said as he opened the door to her room,phone still glued to his ear.
She gasped and smiled as she took him in. Her tall handsome lover, sleek and suave,loving and caring.
“You prankster!” she said as she threw a small pillow at him.
“And is that how to greet the noble knight who flew many hours across the globe to see his dame?”
“Ojebi” she said and pulled her tongue out.
Tolu took in her lean figure and shivered. He couldn’t lose her,not now,never. He moved closer to her bedside and kissed her as though his life depended on it. He looked into her eyes and told her about his trip and the fun places he was planning to take her to for vacation. “you need to take some time off work my love.” like he had always said. She thought she needed it also. She did agree that she had always overdone it but she loved her job and would not be treated like an invalid or a disable.
“Okay,so when are we going?”she asked,surprising him.
He was surprised,he had always begged her to slow down and now,she finally agreed. Words couldn’t describe how happy he was..,”next month,Paris and Venice.”
Paris and Venice,she had always wanted her honeymoon in those beautiful cities. She wondered if she should ask him about how he got to know she would love to go there. “Chill,did i?”
He suddenly went down on his knees and produced a ring with a large diamond on it. "Marry me" he said. The streak of bright light penetrated her eyes and she immediately closed it. When her eyes finally gotaround accommodating the jewel,she stared wildly and screamed,”How much did you buy that?return it and get something smaller”
He laughed so hard and she finally joined in.
“Marry me silly girl before I change my mind,you know I’m proud” he said teasingly.
Tears finally escaped and flowed down her face.
“I love you so much Tolu mi”
“you’ve got no choice baby cos now you are stuck to me forever.”and he sealed their silent vow with a kiss. In between their kiss,he raised his head and said,”mind you,I already asked mum and she joyfully gave her blessings .You had think she was the one I proposed to.”
She laughed and whispered a thank you to God.
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It was her wedding morning. Tolu wanted them to wed quickly so she could take a break and so the wedding was fixed for 3weeks after he proposed. She had just dropped his call when Amira waltzed into the room.
“You are the most beautiful angel heaven lost to man and I’m happy to famz you. I would have continued dishing out compliments but my dear your prince awaits. That fish called to profess his love in church oh,he just didn’t tell you. He is such a dear. So get off your butt and go kiss your prince in church.”
She grabbed her friend’s arm ,”I love him Amira”
“I know madam,you wouldn’t consider walking down that aisle in few minutes if you didn’t.” Amira said as she turned to get her clutch.
“I’m scared Amira”
Amira stylishly dabbed at the drop pf tears that had escaped from her eyes and then turned back to her friend,giving the brightest smile she could muster,”you will be fine Tunmike.”
She took her hand and they walked out of the room.
FEW MINUTES LATER…….
And seeing that there is no objection to the union of these two,I hereby join you in the name of the Father,the son and the holyghost. You may now kiss your bride.
Tolu swept his bride into his arms and gave a mind blowing kiss,a sharp,familiar pain surged through her. Her vision became blurry,she couldn’t make out her lover’s face,she tried to take deep breaths but found that so impossible. The pain she felt couldn’t be compared to the ones she had felt in the past.
“HELP US!!!” Tolu screamed.
The congregation gathered around them ,the last voice she heard above the noice was that of her husband telling her everything would be alright.
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She opened her eyes to the white walls of the hospital. Tolu,Amira and her mother were speaking in low tones. Her sister rushed to her side and gave her the flowers she had been holding as the little bride during the wedding. “Hello sis,you are not going to die,are you?” she asked innocently.
She tried to talk only to find out that she was receiving oxygen. She lifed the breather a little and said “of course not”,after which she smiled and returned the breather to its position. She then pointed at her husband and told her sister to call him. Anita moved away from her bed side and tapped her new uncle.
“She is calling you unc Tolu.”
He looked her way and gave a weak smile. “she is awake,my love is back”,he said to her mother and best friend.
They all moved towards her and offered a prayer of thanksgiving. She removed her breather for some minutes and addressed her family.
“I love you mama,you are the best woman in the world. Amira,words cant tell how wonderful and great you have been. Anita,come here baby.” Her sister moved closer and she gave her tight hug and kiss,the show of affection evoked tears. “So excuse me y’all,I wanna talk to the boo before I send you all home for the night. “
They stood up to leave and she called after them to bring her change of clothes in the morning.. She stared at her husband with tears in her eyes. He hugged her and moved back to avoid making her uncomfortable on the bed. She removed her breather and pulled him closer. She kissed him for long before she started gasping for breath which made her return her breather to its position. She took deep breaths and slided it off her nose again to talk.
“I love you ife mi,don’t ever forget that. I want an epitaph saying,”I wish I didn’t have to leave so soon but I will forever be in your hearts.”
“NO! NEVER!!!” her husband screamed. “you ain't leaving me,our unborn kids need you,I do too. Ife mi you have to stay with me. Please don’t leave.”he cried.
His tears hurt her,”but I don’t want to leave,I want to stay but I’m in pain,It’s unbearable,I’m so weak,I hurt so much.”
Her confession made him cry so much,he slid her breather back across her nose and kissed her palm.
“You have to go now,come check me tomorrow.”she said.
He refused till she slept off. He woke up in the midnight to find no signal or wave on the patient bedside monitor.
“DOCTOR!NURSE!!! SAVE HER!! I NEED HER,SAVE MY WIFE PLEASE!!!”
The doctor and nurse looked at him in pity. “I’m sorry sir but she is gone,we lost her.”
His tears shook the foundations of the earth that day,the earth had sent back heaven’s angel.
THE END
"Yes, I'm Single."
"Yes,I'm single! Yes I'm free!! My life is drama free now!!! This is what my single ladies out there think and ofcourse what you want to believe,but in the innermost part of your heart,you know you are as bored as a lonely man in the dessert,well thats even if he can survive there,lol! Because there are just some things you can't say or do with anybody else other than your partner,the one guy you have got an incurable addiction to.
This might seem odd to you but its just the plain truth. Well there are different reasons why a young lady would want to remain single but generally its very common that most single ladies choose to try to explore their single life after an almighty heart break!
So because you have gone through an heart break at some point in your life and it didnt go so well with you,you become overwhelmed with fear of the same thing repeating itself if you try to love again. You are scared of trusting because you feel you might trust a person and when things are down they forget you,but maybe they dont forget you,they just forget to remember you. Someone who was not even meant for you broke your heart or fell out of love with you,you stopped trusting but I think that seems like a sort of a dumb thing to do!
You want to keep your heart to yourself
because you think it might get cheated on or broken again,it won't really help because when you finally decide to use it again especially after a very long time it might be no good again. You know,it's just like you keeping a newly bought pair of shoes that you really like because you are scared it will wear out,but after keeping it for long,at the end you will out grow it and you wunt be able to rock and show it off again!
Okay,you feel you dont want to use your heart,if you dont use it,nobody even cares then if its gets broken or not,if you keep it to yourself,it may be like the shoes eventually and I bet none of you pretty heart single ladies wants that.
You all should take the chance of loving again,just follow the star in your heart,your heart might still be broken but it isnt gone. Well it is not really a crime if you decide to take a break from the whole dating drama but dont let it take forever with you being overwhelmed with fear so you dont miss the opportunity of finding that perfect gentle man for you 'cause i really do believe they still exist.. (To the guys;please stop being a jerk and prove to these pretty hearts that you are worth a try).
And ofcourse,when you finally decide to follow the star in your heart,go through the right directions and build love with its basics with the person that feels right from your heart.
Its not really much fun when you dont have someone to share with, only if you have exceptional reasons of being single other than fear.
"Seyi Evans
This might seem odd to you but its just the plain truth. Well there are different reasons why a young lady would want to remain single but generally its very common that most single ladies choose to try to explore their single life after an almighty heart break!
So because you have gone through an heart break at some point in your life and it didnt go so well with you,you become overwhelmed with fear of the same thing repeating itself if you try to love again. You are scared of trusting because you feel you might trust a person and when things are down they forget you,but maybe they dont forget you,they just forget to remember you. Someone who was not even meant for you broke your heart or fell out of love with you,you stopped trusting but I think that seems like a sort of a dumb thing to do!
You want to keep your heart to yourself
because you think it might get cheated on or broken again,it won't really help because when you finally decide to use it again especially after a very long time it might be no good again. You know,it's just like you keeping a newly bought pair of shoes that you really like because you are scared it will wear out,but after keeping it for long,at the end you will out grow it and you wunt be able to rock and show it off again!
Okay,you feel you dont want to use your heart,if you dont use it,nobody even cares then if its gets broken or not,if you keep it to yourself,it may be like the shoes eventually and I bet none of you pretty heart single ladies wants that.
You all should take the chance of loving again,just follow the star in your heart,your heart might still be broken but it isnt gone. Well it is not really a crime if you decide to take a break from the whole dating drama but dont let it take forever with you being overwhelmed with fear so you dont miss the opportunity of finding that perfect gentle man for you 'cause i really do believe they still exist.. (To the guys;please stop being a jerk and prove to these pretty hearts that you are worth a try).
And ofcourse,when you finally decide to follow the star in your heart,go through the right directions and build love with its basics with the person that feels right from your heart.
Its not really much fun when you dont have someone to share with, only if you have exceptional reasons of being single other than fear.
"Seyi Evans
Saturday, 22 August 2015
Is Our Management Thirsty For Blood?
We have heard of students lynching their fellow students for various crimes,we have witnessed justice being served,we have witnessed the death of our colleagues even in the spirit of Aluta,but death at the hand of our own school management?IMPOSSIBLE!
Well that was my expression,my response when I read this piece.
Private Universities have always been referred to as "Glorified Secondary Schools",reason is not far fetched. Should we talk about the way students in private schools are caged and restricted? Or perhaps is it the way they are not allowed to wear what they want,eat what they want or use the kind of gadget they would love to.
And all because of what? To preserve morals,integrity,norms and values but to what extent?
Hypocrisy is what I call this.
Why would I pay so much money,risk expulsion when I try to breathe air,fresh air instead of the little amount of oxygen I get in my "cage",only for me to be treated like an animal,dragged out of my bed on a cold night to an unknown destination,beaten to the point of death and almost left to die,uncatered for?
This is the story of two students of Madonna University,Enugu,who were beaten to the point of death,denied treatment and justice.
Read to the end,thank you.
Two students of Madonna University, Akpugo Campus,
Enugu State, have told the horrifying story of torture
they suffered in the hands of key officials of the tertiary
institution.
The duo, Stanley Okoye, 23, a final year Civil
Engineering student and Ga-Lim Aondofa Lord, escaped
death by the whiskers after they were allegedly
abducted from their rooms February 3, 2015, in the dead
of the night, in commando fashion, by the Chief
Security Officer of the university, Okey Ogbonna and
the Dean of Student Affairs, Rev. Fr. Isaac Nginga, a
Catholic priest, in company of others and taken to a
secluded area on the campus, where they were tortured,
brutalized, dehumanised and left to die, but through
divine intervention, they lived to tell the story.
Though they survived the ordeal, they are still
undergoing treatment for the almost fatal injuries they
received in the hands of their tormentors. For instance,
Stanley still needs to undergo special surgery in
Germany on the spine to repair a major damage inflicted
on him while the torture lasted. Aondofa suffered a
dislocated jaw that required having his jaws held
together with special dental wire to allow the injury
heal. The duo would for the rest of their lives bear the
burden of the deep psychological scars imprinted on
their minds by the experience.
Meanwhile, they are still battling to get the results of
their degree examinations released. Accompanied by
their parents, the victims who visited The Sun office in
Onitsha gave a chilling account of what they passed
through in the campus, and revealed the alleged moves
by the university management to cover up the truth.
In the heartbreaking and graphic account of what
happened that fateful night they were abducted, Stanley
Okoye recounted that he was woken up from sleep
around midnight by one Mr. Kingsley, the school’s Sub-
Dean, Mr. Ola, their hall representatives, Mr. Wisdom,
Mr. Somtoo and Ogbonna Okey, who is the university
chief security officer (CSO), all of whom were
accompanied by the Dean of Students Affairs, Rev. Fr.
Isaac Nginga. He was then bundled into a Toyota
4runner SUV and taken to a bushy end of the campus
where their ordeal began.
Continuing, Stanley said: “These people were
accompanied that night by an armed soldier, who is
among our security guards in school. First, they asked
for the room number of my friend and classmate, Lord
Ga-Lim and I told them. They picked him up from his
hostel and forced both of us into the vehicle. They first
drove us to the administrative building and we alighted.
Without any question, they descended on us after
commanding us to lie down on the gravel. It was Rev.
Father Isaac who hit us first with his belt, and the
others then joined. They beat us with military belts,
planks, batons, iron, stones and other dangerous
weapons they could lay their hands on; they dealt
mercilessly with us.
“All the while they were treading on us as we lay on
the sharp, rough gravel. Not even our plea for mercy or
cries for help could melt their hearts. Fr. Isaac even
commanded the military officer to shoot us if we
attempted to run away. In fact, the soldier fired the
shot but narrowly missed me. I was coughing out blood
and bleeding profusely but Ogbonna, the CSO hit me
with his elbow and I fell down again.
“In that state, I was forced into the trunk of the Lexus
SUV of Fr. Isaac; I memorized the registration number
ENU 525 CP. My friend was forced into a Toyota
4Runner SUV driven by Rev. Fr. Mamah. With us in the
trunk, they moved with crazy speed and even drove past
the university security post without stopping. The road
was very bad. Even though I was almost slipping into
unconsciousness, I still heard the shrill voices of
security men at the gate and flashing of lights at them
telling them to stop. I later realized that the people
were policemen on patrol who suspected the manner of
the vehicular movement. That night, our tormentors
took us to Agbani police station.
“A police officer on duty at the station asked them
whether we were involved in accident but they didn’t
answer. In that state, I told the police that we were
attacked by the same people, who brought us to the
station and the police told them to take us to a
specialist hospital or else we would die but they just
took us back to the campus and dumped us in the
campus clinic. I was in pains and we were struggling to
hang on to life. They only gave us painkillers and sleep
inducing drugs. It was one of the nurses who saw our
condition that night that I whispered my mother’s
number into her ears and she used her phone, after
hiding the number, to notify my parents about our
plight.
“While we were in the hospital, they confiscated our
phones, laptops and all our friends and roommates’
phones and communication gadgets to ensure that
information about us did not leak to the outside commu
nity. We were dying in installments. On February 5, I
was woken up by the CSO, who told me that my father
was at the gate and wanted to see me. My dad was
shocked when he saw my condition. When he tried to
take a picture of me, they seized his camera and
smashed it on the ground. After heated argument
between my dad and the people at the gate, they
immediately bundled my friend and myself to the Elele
campus of the university in Rivers State, in the dead of
the night without the knowledge of my father. We were
in the hospital at Elele for about seven weeks shut out
from the people and still under police watch even on
our hospital bed. We underwent several surgeries
because the doctor confirmed that my zygomatic bone
close to the spine was fractured. My friend had
fractures on the lower and upper jaws.
I fainted when I saw my son –Okoye
Narrating how he heard about his son’s ordeal and the
frustrations he encountered in the course of seeking
justice for the victimized students, Chief Okoye told
Sunday Sun that he was in Lagos when his wife called
him from their Abuja home.
His words: “My wife informed me that she received a
distress call. Only God can describe the trauma we
passed through that night before daybreak. I left Lagos
for Enugu with first flight, abandoning all I came to do in
Lagos, but I never knew that I was in for the greatest
shock of my life. On getting to the school gate, I was
denied entry by the security people and left stranded for
four hours. When I noticed that the matter was no more
a small issue not to talk of the uncertainty surrounding
my son’s life, knowing that his phone was already
permanently switched off, I sought for external help
through the military. It was the high command at the 82
Division of the Nigerian Army, Enugu that assisted me
before they could allow me to enter and stay by the
side of the gate while they went to fetch my son. When
they brought him, I fainted, upon seeing his condition.
“After regaining composure a bit, I asked him who did
that to him and he pointed out the CSO, the Rev Father
and some others. I wanted to take his picture in that
state for practical evidence but to my surprise, another
Catholic priest named Fr. Francis, who came in from
Elele, Rivers State with two police escorts ordered the
security men to smash my camera which is worth
N300,000 to pieces, and they did. They also threatened
to shoot me if I didn’t tread with caution. After all
arguments, we agreed that the children should be taken
to either Enugu State University Teaching Hospital
(ESUTH) or University of Nigeria Teaching Hospital
(UNTH), Ituku Ozalla, Enugu State, but to my surprise
again, as soon as I left, they bundled the children in
that state to their headquarters at Elele, Rivers State.
“The children were kept incommunicado and detained in
the hospital too. It was through military assistance that
I was able to gain access to see them in the hospital
but they refused to release them to us for proper
medical care.” Federal High Court to the rescue
Unable to endure the continued detention of the
students at the Elele campus of the university and the
uncertainty and anxiety surrounding their health status,
Okoye through his lawyer, G. E. Ezeuko, SAN
approached the Federal High Court, Enugu, for the
enforcement of the fundamental human rights of the
students. He also slammed a civil suit against the
Governing Council of Madonna University and eight
other respondents, demanding N1billion compensation
for special and general damages and for gross violation
of fundamental human rights guaranteed under the
Constitution of Nigeria and African Charter on Human
and Peoples Rights.
Etisalat Storms The Federal University Of Technology, Minna.
It is no news that one of the best telecommunication company in Nigeria,Etisalat is known for its familiarity with Nigerian students and it's ability to warm and work its way into the hearts of students. Over the years,they have come up with all sort of bundles,bundles attractive enough to wow the heart of students and win them over,starting with the emergence of the easycliq and many more. Indeed,we can say Etisalat is the average Nigerian student special brand.
However it is a thing of pity that the North has been excluded from fun activities,events and has lost the feeling of normalcy and youthful exuberance,due to the state of unrest it has been experiencing in the last few years. The SouthWest and Eastern Regions are the only regions that have been partakers of the many fun events that takes place in Nigeria. The northern students have been less of students as they have had no such opportunities.
Etisalat however did the unimaginable as they stormed the Federal University of Technology,Minna on the 17th of August,2015 and broke the jinx.
FUTminna engaged in its first concert ever this week as Etisalat easycliqfest hit d North for the first time in a very long time.
On Monday was a Rap Battle which featured many dope rappers,the likes of Godson, Ehizzy, LilDrey e.t.c, Infact,Lil drey,a dope female rapper/lyricist was the winner of the rap session and she went home with a sum of 50 thousand naira.
Wednesday was awesome as Niyi Adesanya an inspirational speaker enlightened students on how to make a better future.
On Thursday 20th of August,the main event which was the concert took place. Etisalat brought top Artists like Reminisce, Terry G,Evelle to perform @ the concert.
The event took place at the school field, and turn up was massive.
Etisalat also gave few talented artists of FUTMinna an opportunity to perform along side celebrities. The likes of Ijaya (Agolo Master) , Vinee, Phariee, Otumba kaynyne, Godson(crazy lee) got this great chance. to get their wishes fufilled that beautiful evening.
A raffle draw also took place and lot of gifts were given out. Ibrahim,a spell over student went home with the grand prize, A Hyundai i10.
Indeed,Etisalat is a brand with a distinct difference.
We say a big thank you to Etisalat,WE LOVE YOU ETISALAT.
WAKABOUT
Considering the fact that school was on holiday plus I totally stressed myself out and slept so late the night before, I woke up really early that morning: 8: 40am… or so. I reached for my 17th century Nokia and checked my Whatsapp messages. 7 messages from Bola, my crazy classmate from secondary school. ‘Wake up, Tola. Wake up. Sleepy head! Wake up ’… like that like that sha…
So I sat up and replied him, ‘Big head, I was awake before you dreamt of waking up’
He answered me fast, “Stand up, go bath, I dey una coffee stand.”
Uh oh! “You’re at Nescafe Garden?” I typed back.
“Coffee, Nescafe, all join. Just come and meet me. My sister came to see someone here.”
Bola attends UNILORIN. About two months ago, he brought his younger sister to UI to write Post UME. We got into a debate on which school was better, UI or UNILORIN. His argument beat mine hands down and I hate losing. Over the weeks, I had already gathered ‘weapons and armoury’ to fight the dude. So, you’d understand that I really wanted to see him.
I catapulted out of my bed, went downstairs to fetch water and quickly had my bath. I spent more time dressing up; I just could not find a dress to wear. The reason for this is not far to fetch though, we had not had power in our hall for more than four days. (I’m sure you know the hall I’m talking about). I later settled for a pink sequined dress that had ruffles. At least nobody would know it was rumpled.
I rushed out of my hostel and waited for a cab. As soon as the first cab pulled up, I remembered I did not have any t-fare. So, I went back inside my room and famzed my roommate for 20 bucks. I got it and rushed back to the bus stop. After waiting under the scorching sun for about 15 minutes, I finally got a cab to the faculty.
It was about 9:30a.m when I got to Nescafe garden. I looked around and I did not see Bola. I walked down to Gossip Arena, to the Pepsi shop at SUB, to the taxi park, upstairs in the CLA Building and KDL. I did not find the dude. Meanwhile, I was calling him over and over again and he was not picking up his phone. Did he follow his sister to the lecturer’s office or something? I got tired and decided to sit in the faculty. After some time I got a call from the dude. I was already pissed off. “Bola, where are you nah? I’ve been waiting here since morning.”
He laughed. “As I dey talk to you so, I dey on top my toilet for house.”
I could not believe my ears. “What?” So he was not in school at all?
“I don tell you say make you dey fear me.” He gloated.
What the… I cut the call. Just then, I remembered that not too long ago, I told him that I was a better prankster than he was. I called him back and told him I didn’t like what he did. After laughing at me for a long time, he apologized and told me he was going to come to my school on Sunday… for real, this time. I smiled to myself, he would see who the better prankster is on Sunday.
NUT
ARISE OH, KOPA SHAN (SERIES 1)
Just last month,some youth corp members had their passing out parade. A lot of folks and foes congratulated the lucky ones. I mean serving your father land isn't "something like a joking sturv" *in Falz voice* and those first 3 weeks of orientation ehn! Hehehehe,no be small matter o. From you having to wake up as early as 3am to the strenous "exercise" you have to endure,the corporal punishment and the way the "ajebutters" faint ehn,abeg I dey fear say I no go wan do this thing ooo. Well,enough talk about me,KOPA SHAN Series isn't about Kitty. And so on the first series of "KOPA SHAN",we would be talking to one of the many who successfully passed out of the Youth Corps Service,get to read all about his days in school to the present.
Without much ado,I give to you Tijani Oluwamayowa Emmanuel,aka The Abefe Okin,a graduate of Food Technology,University of Ibadan and most importantly,a journalist. *wow*..surprised right? Well,let's get to know more..You ready???
Kitty: Can we meet you?
Tj: I am Tijani Oluwamayowa Emmanuel,a graduate of the premier university and a practicing journalist.
Kitty: Hmmm..the Premier University. What is it about Uites that make them say that word "Premier" with so much pride? Yes we know that Uniibadan is the first university in Nigeria but the way the students say it with so much pride makes it seem like there is more to the word "Premier".
Tj: Premier,stems from the Latin word "Primus" which gave birth to Prime,meaning, Unique,Eccentric and Altogether Different. A school of though believes it's from "Premiere",a French word meaning First. But in all University of Ibadan would always be the primus inter pares,First among equals!
Kitty:*sighs*,Uniibadan sha,okay oh. It brings me to the next question. I have heard a lot about the "UI standard". I mean when Public speakers,orators go outside the school community to debate or speak,they always talk about the "UI standard" that can be met by other schools. As a journalist and even a renowned public speaker and orator,what do you think about this "over hyped" standard?
Tj: The UI standard is multifaceted. The average UI student has a personal standard,the average graduate knows more and is well respected amongst other graduates. In NYSC sojourn,I came to respect the university even more. You get to camp and you just say it by chance that you are from UI,everything changes. If you are a girl,some guys from other schools get somewhat intimidated. If you are a guy,welcome to the honeymoon. You just become some demigod. There is this aura that comes with the UI brand,it cannot just be totally explained. As for public speaking and other competitions,there is a minimum expectation for UI students out there. Every student who let this university pass through him or her must be able to meet up. Woe unto you if you don't let UI pass through you as a uite.
Kitty: hmmm,I can't wait to serve ooo. Alright moving on,as a 3time consecutive recipient of the best campus journalist in the Premier,a press member of the Union Campus Journalist(UCJ),what did you gain when you were in school and how has it helped your career?
Tj: This was a question I was faced with as a student. I rarely attended classes towards the end,I had found my calling,I went after it. People asked if I was paid,I wasn't. I wrote for Tribune,Guardian,
Saharareporters and TheScoopNG. No one paid me,I was building myself. When I got out of school,getting a job was "child's play",i didn't have to struggle. The sacrifices paid up,i even became sought after by God's gace. Everything pays,just give it time.
Kitty: Wow..interesting. So you are called "The Abefe Okin",what brought about this Panegyric.
Tj: It is my "oriki",it literally means "he who might be begged to be loved,dated and married. It affected my stay in school starting from 300level when many girls began asking me out. *feeling embarrassed*
Kitty: Me sef go dey bear Abefe Kitty Okin,make boys sef dey queue for my front and back..*giggles*. I love that though. So Abefe Okin! Let us go back to your days as a corper,what was it like?
T.j: It was fun,i didn't have sex as feared. When I told a lady that,she said my NYSC was boring. But in the real sense,it was fun. I had 2 families. The Eko Kopa Editorial and Publicity team and Eko Kopa Radio team. I also had the Cable family. They made life worth every bit of it,it was great fun and challenging. In no time,it was all over.
Kitty: awwwn,lovely. So how was the 3weeks orientation camp? The early call to the parade ground,the boring lectures and all? Especially the last 3days in camp which is usually fun like all corpers do say.
Tj: I went to a military secondary school,so for me it was just normal. I didn't feel the way others felt around soldiers,i knew what to expect. Parades were "norms" back in secondary school. What people experienced in 3weeks,I had done for 6years. Beat that! *winks*. I left Bayelsa camp,my original state of deployment for Lagos,so my last 3days were normal. Nothing hyper.
Kitty: So tell me,what's up with this mentality that graduates go to camp with? I mean they think the camp is a place to have fun and a sex platform where you get to have fun unlimited,unrestrained. You hear things like "even nuns and spirikoko gets to shag". Is that what the 3weeks in camp especially the last 3days really about?
Tj: No ma'am,many of us didn't indulge ourselves in such rather illicit acts. I don't drink,nor did I drink in camp. I don't give myself to sex and sort,neither did I too in camp and I have friends I can vouch for that didn't do such. Lucas,Pelumi,Segun,Samuel and no be say na we holy pass oooo.
Kitty: *laughs*..abeg guys should be like you people oh. That brings me to the general belief about NYSC and relationships. I once heard a friend say to another friend whose boyfriend was leaving for service. He said to her,"he will break up with you,I mean niccur would want to enjoy his service year now,lot of girls in camp,booze and parties,no dull am o.. he might come back after a year sha." I laughed and started to think of why he would say such. But it is true you know,girls get scared when their guys go to serve because they think their relationships would crumble,I mean the long distance,attraction to someone else,sexual matters and all. In all,do you think NYSC is really the end to most relationships?
Tj: Yes,may relationships end during that year but it is because those relationships were not built on the right foundation in the first place. Some do not lose their relationships during service year,but their partners have "fun",sex and all with other persons claiming they don't know who is handling their partners back home. It is just a sure index that the relationship wasn't worth it in the first place. When they become husbands,they had do the same anytime work posts them out of their spouse sight.
Kitty: Thank you very much for that T.J. Let's now talk about the N19,800 monthly allowance corpers get from the federal government. Do you feel it should be increased?
Tj: I am torn between two schools of thought on that. Everyone wants more money but not every should get more money. If the money is increased to say fifty thousand naira and you collect that every month and live comfortably,when you are done with NYSC and you have no job or a job paying below that,you may find it hard to cope. Personally,I think N19,800 is small,especially those whose states do not pay a dime and their PPA pay them less than N5,000. But I think NYSC should be more about empowerment than money.
Kitty: That is true. So I guess this is the question on everybody's mind. What is next after NYSC? Most importantly,where do you see yourself in the next 5years?
Tj: I got a job with about 4 firms,notable among them were Vanguard newspaper and The Cable. So for me,God has doused my Post-NYSC tension. So your "what next" question is easier to answer. I'd be pursuing my journalism career. And in the next 5years,I should be a few years away from the peak of my career.
Kitty: Great. So in how many years time would the wedding bells ring?
Tj: Vision2020
Kitty: So quickly,what will you say you have achieved in the last few years?
Tj: God has helped me. He is built a solid foundation for the name I hope to have in the years to come. A good name is better than gold and silver. Winning the Nigerian Championship of Public Speaking (NCPS) in 2013 and mentoring the 2014 teams were a good bedrock for my public speaking career.
Winning FOPA,UCJ and Campus Times awards as best campus journalist were also solid starts. As God would have it,even during my service year,a few hours and life changing stories were achieved. For me,it has been a fulfilling milestone.
Kitty: What is your advise to the present corpers and ones that recently passed out?
Tj: Excellence pays,whatever you do,be excellent at it. Even if it is street sweeping.
Kitty: Do you have anything to say to TheFACET readers?
Tj: Yes I do. TheFACET would be very big in the days to come,as a reader on this platform,be ardent,drop comments,get known as a top commentator,because when it gets big,you can also say "WE BUILT THAT BRAND."
*smiles* thank you so much Abefe Okin! I hope to be greater than you though(when I grow up)..lol..it was really nice having a chat with you and I hope to hear more success stories about you as the years roll over. See you at the top,TheFACET loves you!
******************************************** I guess that brings us to the end of this interview session for the KOPA SHAN series for the month of August. Look forward to meeting the next KOPA on KOPA SHAN in September. You really don't want to miss out. See you next time,next month and come with high expectations. Chao chao*kisses*
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